From this moment on...

Make a decision that , from this moment on , you will never be less than friendly toward yourself.

No more treating yourself like a slave.
No more putting yourself down - ever.
No more negative assumptions.
No more torment over past events that you can't change.
No more ''putting up with'' other people's abuse or unkindness.
No more postponing doing what you love most.

This will radically change the way you feel on the inside. And it will change the way that you think about other people , interpret their behavior, respond to them and act toward them.

It is impossible to see the world as a friendly place (despite the disappointments and hassles) until the world inside your own mind is also friendly.

When the old thoughts or behaviors arise , see them for what they are (tired , useless habits) and move on. They will continue to tug at you , but only as long as you pay attention.

Written by Stephanie Dowrick

Letters to Juliet

Dear Claire,

“What” and “If” are two words as non-threatening as words can be.

But put them together side by side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life.

What if? What if? What if?

I don’t know how your story ended, but if what you felt then was true love, then it’s never too late. If it was true then, why wouldn’t it be true now?

You need only the courage to follow your heart.

I don’t know what a love like Juliet’s feels like,

a love to leave loved ones for,

a love to cross oceans for,

but I’d like to believe, if I ever were to feel it,

that I’d have the courage to seize it.

And Claire, if you didn’t, I hope one day that you will.

All my love,

Juliet

Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

While we are all bound to have some regrets in life, here are the top 5.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Ware said that this was the most common regret of all. It’s easy to let our dreams slip by due to circumstances or decisions that we’ve made. These choices mark the divide between living a fulfilled life or one that is full of regrets.

It’s important that we aim to achieve at least some of our dreams along the way. We often put off trying for our dreams due to a myriad of reasons. Before we know it, we would have lost our health and therefore, our chance to attain them.

If your dream is to start a business, get to it. If it’s to learn how to dance or try skydiving, book a class. If you want to make music, pick up a guitar.

Don’t put it off any longer.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

In between having ends meet and aiming for a luxurious lifestyle, it’s easy to see why we get caught up with our work.

Ware said that this was a common regret of male patients who didn’t manage to spend enough time with their family.

It’s easy to get caught up in the rat race, but remember to set aside some time for the important things in life. Most importantly, you will have to understand why you do what you do. Is it for your own personal achievement, for family, or for a higher calling?

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Hands up anyone who has suppressed their feelings in order to avoid potential embarrassment or argument.

Avoiding arguments is good for a harmonious life, but the problem comes when we take it too far. When we blindly follow the opinions of someone more assertive just to avoid arguments, we’re shortchanging ourselves.

While it’s understandable that we use Twitter and blogging to rant about things we are unhappy with, do remember that talking about it face-to-face is always a more sincere option.

So if an issue is major enough, try approaching the person for an honest and frank chat. We’re not saying that the talk will be smooth sailing, but your relationships will emerge stronger and healthier.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

It’s easy to lose touch with good friends. A busy lifestyle can take away time from the ones you love. This is where technology comes in.

With services like Facebook, WhatsApp and Yahoo! Messenger, it’s easy to keep tabs on old friends. Talking to friends is so effortless today that we have no reason to let staying in touch with friends take a backseat.

At the end of the day though, nothing beats chatting over a cup of coffee. So always remember to occasionally take things offline and catch up with your friends the old fashioned way.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

‘Many don't realize until the end that happiness is a choice’, said Ware in her blog post.

This is very true. Happiness is something that we choose for ourselves. Many get upset over the circumstances in their lives. What they do not realize is that they can choose to face difficulties with a smile.

Take a moment and enjoy life. If difficulties come your way, remember that pain is inevitable but wallowing in misery is always optional.

Choose to be happy.

ref: http://ph.yahoo.matchmovegames.com/news/article/5-regrets-people-have-on-their-deathbeds

Fix You

When you try your best, but you don't succeed

When you get what you want, but not what you need

When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep

Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face

When you lose something you can't replace

When you love someone, but it goes to waste

Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below

When you're too in love to let it go

But if you never try you'll never know

Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down on your face

When you lose something you cannot replace

Tears stream down on your face

And I...

Tears stream down on your face

I promise you I will learn from my mistakes

Tears stream down on your face

And I...

Lights will guide you home

And ignite your bones

And I will try to fix you

Rest In Pieces

Look at me

My depth perception must be off again

Cause this hurts deeper than I thought it did

It has not healed with time

It just shot down my spine

You look so beautiful tonight

Reminds me of how you laid us down

And gently smiled

Before you destroyed my life

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (let me rest in pieces)

Look at me

My depth perception must be off again

You got much closer than I thought you did

I'm in your reach

You held me in your hand

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces

Would you find it in you heart

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces

To you Dad

Why can't that be me, the daughter you come home to

Loving me all the time, and saying I miss you

Why can't that be me, the daughter you call everyday

The daughter that you miss so much that she takes your breath away

Why can't that be me, the daughter that makes you cry

The one that touches your soul, everytime she says goodbye

Why can't that be us, daughter to father

Without you in my life, everyday it gets harder.

For many years I tried, and oh how hard I tried

But I will never be that daughter I want to be to you

For you already have one that makes you prouder than I ever can and ever will...